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Grieving the Loss of A Child

Candace Downing

Candace Downing

Grieving the death of a child is by far the worst pain a parent can feel.  How can it NOT be?  A parent’s first instinct is to protect their children.

Dealing with grief from losing a child can seem near impossible and for many, believing in an afterlife is the only thing that can help at all.  It won’t take the pain away but for fleeting moments, knowing that their angel is in fact safe and happy, can provide small windows of peace.

Mathy Downing  is a parent who has had to survive the unsurvivable — losing a child. At the tender age of 12 years old, her daughter Candace passed away.  The most crippling and horrific part was that it could have been avoided.

For most of us growing up, we watched our parents put their trust in doctors.  At that time, medications were more of a last resort for any problem or illness.  Unfortunately, in the current times, pharmaceutical drugs are prescribed at an astronomical rate.

Sadly, Candace’s life was unfairly taken from her because she was a causality of this epidemic.

( “They’re Not Gone”, excerpt from Chapter 13 –An Angel Like No Other, pg. 194)

( excerpt of Mathy speaking to Psychic Medium, Ricky Wood about her daughter Candace )

“You’re right,” Mathy responded sadly. “She was not depressed, she was put on anti-depressants not for depression, but for anxiety, and she did take her own life.” Mathy already knew unequivocally that Candace was not depressed and that the drugs she was prescribed caused it. At that moment she felt understood  watching Ricky’s reaction. After a roller coaster ride of medications, Candace met an untimely death.

Although Mathy already believed in the afterlife and our own innate ability to receive messages from our loved ones, Mathy was comforted by Ricky Wood’s ability to understand the absolute devastation that she felt.  She was also amazed by his ability to ‘see’ her at a future event and provide advice.

( “They’re Not Gone”, excerpt from Chapter 13 –An Angel Like No Other, pg. 195)

“Mathy,” Ricky continued, “I see you standing at a podium in front of hundreds of people. BE STRONG. You have to be strong because they want to see your tears.” Ricky continued adamantly, “You have got to be strong. You can’t cry in front of them because that is what they want to see.” Six months later, Mathy was standing at a podium in front of hundreds of people addressing the FDA. She stood tall and strong telling them, “I am not impressed with you sitting back in your ivory towers passing judgment on our children, and our children’s blood is on your hands.” She did not cry. This statement was replayed in the New York Times, World News Tonight, Fox, MSNBC, and the Today Show. Even at a medical conference, the head speaker quoted her in discussing the corruption of the drug industry in marketing drugs, over medication in our society, and how they are being used to make a buck.

Mathy Downing and her family continue to tirelessly advocate for  parents and children’s rights to be informed of the potential tragic side effects of medicating children.  Their strength and determination will save countless lives– sparing others the unthinkable grief from losing a child .

The death of a child is unfair, excruciatingly painful, and will probably never completely leave you. But my hope is that you will find some peace knowing that the love you and your child share will never die.  It can’t.  Your child is a spirit who is still with you today.

They’re Not Gone.

Wishing You Love & Peace,

A.P. Morris

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1 Comment

  1. mathy, Candace's mom

    A. P. Morris is correct. There is no bond stronger than that of the loving relationship between mother and child. To have that bond broken so abruptly, with no warning, creates a numbness that takes years to overcome. We had no warning of Candace’s demise because Candace had no warning. While some medications can be necessary, too often drugs are prescribed, especially to children as a “quick fix”. (“Boyfriend break up with you? Feeling sad? No problem! Take this pill and you’ll feel all better!” or “Feeling a little hyper? Can’t focus because you have a lot going on in your life? No worries! This pill will slow you down. You’ll feel just like a zombie!”) We need to realize that emotions are a fact of life and we should not use mind altering medications to take those feelings away. Not a sermon, just a hope that people will learn to work through their issues without the need for overmedicating. Don’t lose a child or other loved one needlessly as we did. Have the knowledge that we were not given.

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